Carpe Diem aka “In memory of a dear friend……” 💔

Carpe Diem is a phrase that you hear so often, flippantly thrown into any given conversation (usually with a shrug) to say that we should all ‘seize the day’ or at the very least do something nice in the next few days. 


But as I sit here, after hearing the dreadful news of a loss of a dear friend, it really does ring true. How do you face the world when you know that your ‘days’ are literally numbered? I really can’t imagine, but I do know that even when facing such terrible news, her thoughts were for others. Her last message to me was all about how surreal the world was but then, as was her way, full of thoughts on how I was doing. 


woman sitting on brown wooden box



My thoughts then turned to what is it that I want to do, what kind of days do I want to ‘seize‘?


Should I book that trip? 

Should I send that message? 

Should I buy that dress/jacket/shoes?

Should I book that mammogram/smear/check up?

Should I spend more time with the people who stood by me after my spinal fracture ? 

Should I let go the hurt and anger towards those who didn’t? 


Should I…?






The answer to all of these are of course, a resounding ‘YES 


So today is a hard but painful reminder that even when we think we have all the time in the world to do everything we want, to go everywhere we want or to say everything we need to, we really don’t do we? 


In that last message to me, Sara wrote “Life is a bugger as you well know so it just proves we need to Carpe the hell out of that Diem!!!”


So today/tonight/tomorrow hold those you love a little bit tighter, do those things that are on your ‘to do‘ list, wear your ‘best‘ clothes, book that trip and open that good bottle of something you’ve been keeping for a special occasion. 


That ‘special occasion‘ is today guys, enjoy it………..




In memory of Sara, a beautiful woman inside and out.  RIP 💔